Aiyo...Don't Feel Sad la...

Dear Friend,

Let's get straight to the point. After today's event I don't really know what you are thinking or feeling and I won't pretend as if I do. As I am not sure when is the right time or if you even want to talk about the issue, I decided to write it down here and give the link on your FB wall. Logically if you have the mood for social networking chances are you are feeling better already.

Let me share with you my experience as a white collared worker. I used to have a hard time dealing with a senior colleague. Not more than a month after I joined the office, I was given a lesson on professional emailing ethics just because I used the salutation 'Salam'. He said that it is not professional and pointed out that his name is not Salam and that the name reminded him of a mentally challenged guy in his hometown. In my mind at that time I was like "Helooo?!! How does Salam from your kampung has anything to do with my email...duhhh" My effort to explain the situation was not accepted. I felt so low at that time but tried to play it cool. Normally this would be the end of this story but NO not this story of mine. My life has always been full of drama and so this story. To add salt to wound I found out that my colleague BCC'ed a few of my other senior colleagues in his replies to my emails. At that time I was so embarrassed and really hated that colleague of mine. Never in my mind at that time I would imagine that we would be friends like we are now. We even went climbing the mount Kinabalu together. If I hated him I doubt that I would be willing to climb a mountain with him. But then again climbing the mountain together might be the best occassion for me to push him down the cliff haha

My point is everytime life gives you shit, it actual brings you to a crossroad between striving to be better or indulging yourself in self pity. Some people thinks that by pressuring people they would push that person to excellence without realising that it too has a risk of breaking a person's will to be better. Let's not talk about something we can't control. The thing that we can control is how we react to the event. For me, I decided to push myself out of self pity and work harder to prove myself. Well I do indulge in self pity every now and then but that's just my ADD talking haha

I may not have known you for a long time but I think I am not alone in saying that you have the potential to be a good PE. For now you just have to push yourself harder and try to learn as much as you can from people around you. Well sometimes you can opt to indulge in dreaming of a career near a swimming pool but for now you have to snap out of thinking that you have other career options. You do have the options but lets not think about them for this moment and think of this position that you have now as the only one.

I wish I could have helped more but untill you yourself decide to make things better there's not much I can help. Today's event is a lesson for both of us. I do feel bad for what have happened. Earlier I had a dejavu of the 'Salam' incident when reading the email from your SV. So if he is purposely picking on you like what my colleague did, chances are he has high regards for your talent and wishes to further develop it.

If you want to talk I am always nearby.

Good luck.

Your friend,
XOXO =p