gentleman for a lady

how hard it is actually to be a gentleman? i believe it is as hard as being a lady to a women especially with impossible expections coming from men on how a lady should act. both gender is to be blamed coz we like to set impossible benchmark on what it meant to be a gentleman or a lady due to false potrayal of the concept by entertainment industry. for example, women (most women if not all) nowadays expect their other half to be as charming as Edward the vampire. for one we are not vampire and surely does not live forever. im sure being immortal Edward must have learn or pick up a gentleman's habit for a long long looong time. thus only proving that practise makes perfect. im sure Edward would have had countless number of lovers, girlfriends or any other name you call you significant other to learn how to act properly. if he does not learn from his past mistakes he must be one impossibly stubborn man.

well ladies do bear in mind that we are only human who have a limited time to perfect the skills of a gentleman which some people might not even succeed till the day they meet the angle of death. my point is, we have to be realistic and allow some time for the male species to learn from his mistakes and not just slap them with the big stamp "NOT A GENTLEMAN" or in malay "X GENTLEMAN LANGSUNG".....being a getlemen is a skill that needed to be performed without the element of being pretencious. it have to be potrayed naturally by a person. you can't force it out of a man or you might risk getting a stiff partner who awkwardly demonstrate the act of being a gentleman as if he was following a manual. to put an end to my rambling on this subject, ponder on this 'a gentleman is for a lady and vice versa'......